Welcome to our community of voices.  

Share dialogue, resources, stories, victories and ideas.  You'll have a voice and a place to hang out!
 

Our Focus:  We will not use this site to go after abusers or to seek justice for wrongs committed.  We'll leave that effort to others.  It has nothing to do with our purpose.  Our purpose is to help heal those who have been abused. 

Our Audience:  This site is not just for those who have experienced physical, emotional, sexual or spiritual abuse in their lives, it is for those who care about abuse sufferers.

No Judgment:  In the healing process, an abuse sufferer will have a strong drive to tell others what happened to them.  This is a natural part of the healing process.  However, too often this stage in the healing process coincides with a negative reaction against the abused by family or friends.  At the very time when the abused needs to talk, he or she is told to keep quiet.  This site offers the listening, empathetic ear of a community coming together to share experiences, victories, ideas and resources.    

Responsibilities:  We will address three different responsibilities:

 1.)    Responsibility to heal.  That’s right, healing from abuse is a responsibility.  The affects of abuse reach farther than just the immediate sufferer.  Those who love an abuse sufferer will attest to this fact.  In fact, we propose a rather striking and somewhat controversial thought; one which we hope all abuse sufferers will carefully and thoughtfully consider in light of the spirit in which we give it – unhealed abuse ALWAYS results in the abused one perpetrating further abuse; either internally upon one’s self or externally upon others.  Even though abuse sufferers are not responsible for what happened to them, they have a responsibility to themselves and others to heal from it.   

2.)    Responsibility to society.  “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing”  (Edmund Burke).  In producing this website, we have a strong desire to greatly reduce the incidence of abuse in our society.  We believe the most effective way to accomplish a reduction in abuse is to more effectively deal with the emotions of those who have suffered it.  Stopping abuse in society by confronting abusers will not necessarily produce the desired results.   

3.)    Responsibility to speak up.  Hitler succeeded in torturing and killing millions because his crimes were so difficult to believe.  Even armed with the awareness of the holocaust and knowing what horrors a man can inflict on others, many find it difficult to believe that a person in MY neighborhood, MY church or MY family could do such horrible things.  We have a responsibility to awaken our society to the possibilities and realities of abuse.

We welcome any constructive comments or suggestions.